And a New Journey Begins...

On Thursday, I received a phone call from the principal of Katelyn's preschool (another amazing advocate for Katelyn), asking if it would be possible for me to meet with her and Katelyn's teacher and ABA therapist on Friday. They are aware that I am taking Katelyn to her first appointment with a child psychologist on Monday, so they wanted to provide me with some more input from the school to share with the doctor. Without hesitation, I rearranged my schedule and met with them yesterday. (To see a list of her most concerning behaviors put together by the school, click here.)

As I arrived at the principal's office, she informed me that Katelyn was having the most challenging day yet, and that she wasn't sure if her teacher and therapist could even leave the classroom to come to meet with me because Katelyn needed extra supervision. Luckily, another therapist helped manage Katelyn so that they were able to attend the meeting.

The school and I have had an ongoing dialogue, almost on a daily basis, regarding Katelyn's current issues in the classroom as well as at home, so there were no surprises on either end. Almost immediately, the principal mentioned that they feel that her current preschool classroom and therapies in place are no longer beneficial to her, in that they are pretty much spending the entire day trying to get her to follow the routine of the classroom safely without hurting herself and others. She then explained that, while Katelyn will always have a place at their school, they feel that Katelyn may temporarily benefit from an outpatient psychiatric evaluation and treatment program. She handed me a pamphlet for a Pediatric Partial Hospital Program (PPHP) and reviewed the details with me. Given the current circumstances, I immediately agreed that this was the right road to take at this time.

About the PPHP...
(copied from the pamphlet) "The PPHP is a highly specialized day treatment program that provides comprehensive evaluation and intensive treatment for young children ranging in age from early infancy through 6 years, and their families ... The primary goal of the program is to help children safely live at home while offering children and their families the opportunity to work on behavioral, emotional and social difficulties that occur at home and in the community."

The program offers family therapy, milieu therapy, behavioral therapy, group treatments, and psychiatric medication, if necessary. The PPHP staff includes therapists, nurses, psychiatrists, psychologists, pediatricians and support staff.

Basically, what this means is that Katelyn will be attending this program Monday through Friday from 8:30am to 4pm anywhere from 3 weeks to 2 months, depending on her needs. She will then return to her current preschool setting once she is ready to be discharged from the program, and appropriate followup treatment will be arranged. (Unfortunately, transportation is not provided, so I will be crossing state borders twice a day during rush-hour traffic to get her to and from the program, but hopefully it will be worth it!)

While it is definitely not an easy decision to make to enroll our 3-year-old child into a psychiatric program, we feel confident that this is the best course of action to help Katelyn, as well as our family. Anyone who knows me can testify that I do not do anything lightly when it comes to the well-being of my children. It has been absolute torture on all of us as her parents, family, friends, teachers and therapists, to see her suffering the way that she is, especially since she had been doing so well just a few months ago. However, we are hopeful that this program will be able to provide not only an answer as to what is causing this behavior, but also the appropriate method of treatment in order to help our beautiful daughter return to us as soon as possible.

Thank you to all who have offered us the love and support that we need to sustain us throughout this emotionally exhausting ordeal. We never envisioned this happening, but we are prepared to begin yet another journey to get our beloved daughter back. And of course, I will continue to share our story each step of the way.

Step 1: Parent Interview at the Autism Diagnostic Center...

This morning was the first step in Katelyn's reevaluation process, the parent interview at the autism diagnostic center. Kevin was up all night sick, so I ended up going on my own. Thankfully, I was also armed with a very informative letter from Katelyn's amazing preschool teacher, explaining in detail how Katelyn's behavior has affected her at school.

I mentioned how far Katelyn has come since her diagnosis in terms of her autistic symptoms, and that, aside from the behavior piece, sometimes it seems like she doesn't even have autism, but the doctor pointed out some things to me that demonstrate that she is definitely on the spectrum, which actually was reassuring to me. (I know that must sound strange, but lately I've been going back and forth on an emotional rollercoaster wondering if she is indeed autistic or if this is something entirely different going on.) She said that although Katelyn has shown significant improvement in many of her symptoms, Katelyn is still exhibiting signs of autism. For example, although her speech has dramatically improved, her pragmatic language is not there, and it sounds to her like Katelyn is sometimes using delayed echolalia and scripting to communicate. She is also still labeling and listing things (for example, I told her how she talks about school and she will go down the list of kids, teacher/aides, etc. "I ready to see Olivia, I ready to see Jason, and Ryan, and Miss Lauren, and Sabrina..."), she cannot have a back-and-forth conversation yet, etc. Also, her social skills are still way behind. She also pointed out that even though she is not flapping anymore, she is turning that into something else, like her fingers overlapping (what I call the lobster claw hand --a strange thing she does with her index and middle finger) or clenching her fists like she is upset or anxious.

In terms of the behavior issues, she asked if we've had a functional behavior analysis (FBA) done before and I said no. She said that Katelyn's behavior is out of her realm (and she's a top expert on autism!) and that we definitely need to get an FBA done as soon as possible. This will involve having a team come to the home and school environments to observe what is going on and take data and attempt to implement some strategies for us to use. She agreed that Katelyn's behavior is very puzzling and hard to figure out. She suggested possibly negative attention seeking behavior, but also recommended genetic testing because some genetic disorders can cause regression like this, especially the all of a sudden not showing interest in previously enjoyed things or activities. I told her that some genetic testing was done around the time of suspected seizures back in Jan 2009 and she said she would like to see the results from the neurologist. She does not think it is a yeast/bacteria issue related to the pneumonia/antibiotics because she said, in her opinion, that there is no way it would last this long. She emphasized the importance of consistency on the part of her parents, teachers, and caregivers. She even mentioned that this is serious enough that if we do not get help for her now, Katelyn could end up having to go to a special school or even in a residential program somewhere, NOT because of her autism or lack of cognitive skills, but because of her behavior. If that isn't serious, I don't know what is. She did agree that it sounds like this is something other than the autism going on in addition to, and probably made worse by, the autism.

So, that is where we are at so far. Now we have to wait until April 1st (date was changed) for her evaluation. I also got her an appointment with a child psychologist for next week, so hopefully she will be able to help us in the interim with how to try to deal with her behavior at home, as well as at school.

Thanks for all of the good thoughts and prayers in this difficult time. I will be sure to keep you all up to date on what is going on in this reevaluation process.

Right Back Where We Started From...

It has been quite a while since I last posted and a lot has happened since (including the birth of our baby boy, Trevor Kyle, in January!)

In December, Katelyn had a bout of pneumonia and it really set her back. Up until then, she had been really progressing well. However, being very sick for over a week, coupled with then being out of school for winter recess, she really regressed in terms of her behavior and willingness to do things independently. Her control issues also escalated and she became even more demanding than before.

After doing some research and talking with other parents of children with autism, we decided to try a course of Nystatin since she was on amoxicillin for the pneumonia and antibiotics often can cause an overgrowth of yeast in the body, especially in children with autism. We have yet to see any improvement. In fact, as time goes on, her behavior has been getting far worse, both at home and now at school.

We are now suspecting that something else is going on in addition to her autism that is causing her to behave this way. Her teacher and therapists have never encountered a child like Katelyn and they are as baffled as we are. We have tossed around the idea that perhaps it is obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) or even depression that is causing her to be so demanding and controlling, but now we are leaning more towards oppositional defiant disorder (ODD). I had heard of ODD way back when I first read about autism, but at the time I did not feel that Katelyn fit that profile whatsoever. Now, however, she seems to fit it to a tee.


Here is a brief description of oppositional defiant disorder:

In children with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), there is an ongoing pattern of uncooperative, defiant, and hostile behavior toward authority figures that seriously interferes with the youngster’s day to day functioning. Symptoms of ODD may include:

• Frequent temper tantrums
• Excessive arguing with adults
• Often questioning rules
• Active defiance and refusal to comply with adult requests and rules
• Deliberate attempts to annoy or upset people
• Blaming others for his or her mistakes or misbehavior
• Often being touchy or easily annoyed by others
• Frequent anger and resentment
• Mean and hateful talking when upset
• Spiteful attitude and revenge seeking

We have been seeing an increase in aggression both towards herself and to others, especially to her sister, Ashley. Thank God she has not directed any of this towards Trevor, but I worry that it is only a matter of time before the novelty wears off. She is also starting to hit other children at school without any reason other than the fact that they walked by her. She has been increasingly demanding and controlling, and she deliberately seeks to annoy or upset others, especially me unfortunately, probably because I am the main disciplinarian since I am with her the most. She will purposely defy us, even if it means forfeiting privileges that she earned, and begged for, moments earlier. If we say yes, she says no. If we say no, she says yes. Every single aspect of our lives with Katelyn has become a constant battleground. She cuts off her nose to spite her face.

Because this is interfering with her at school and at home, we have decided to pursue psychiatric evaluation for Katelyn. Our first step is going to be getting her re-evaluated by the same doctor who diagnosed her autism. This will take place in March and we will get the results of the evaluation mid-April. We also put her name on a waiting list for a local center specializing in children's behavioral health, but they said that we will most likely not hear from them for at least two months to book an evaluation.

So now the waiting begins once again...the not knowing...the hoping that getting a diagnosis will offer some sort of help for our child and our family as a whole. We are right back where we started from when we first began this journey back in 2008, but this time it feels much different to me.

When receiving the diagnosis of autism, I threw myself into advocating for my child and learning as much as I could about autism, but this is really affecting me to my core. I cannot express how difficult it is to deal with the fact that your child may have a disorder that causes her to want to purposely upset you, or that creates such turmoil inside of her that she no longer enjoys things that she used to because she is in a constant battle within herself. I am often reminded of the nursery rhyme line: "And when she was good, she was very, very good, but when she was bad, she was horrid." And what makes it worse is that I know in my heart that this is NOT my child...this is not who she was just a few short months ago. And I will do everything in my power to ensure that this is not who she will be forever.